Espousing a Peaceful and Friendly Way of Ending a Marital Union

Many marriage counselors and divorce lawyers describe the process of divorce as complex, demoralizing emotional and, often, extremely frustrating, when referring to contested divorce. Contested divorce, which is the traditional way of ending a marital union, is settled in a family court, wherein all decisions regarding divorce-related issues (child custody and visitation rights, child support, alimony or spousal support, and division of property, assets and debts) are made by a family court judge since the divorcing spouses refuse to agree or cannot reach an agreement on these same issues.

Other than a family court judge deciding on all related matters that need to be settled, a contested divorce is also open to the public, thus, all those present in the courtroom will be able to witness how each spouse, through their respective lawyers, discredit and destroy one another, often in order to win the judge’s favor. This type of divorce can also drag on for months, even up to a couple of years; worse, the longer it takes to settle the more expensive it becomes.

Avoiding all these unpleasant situations associated with contested divorce is the most probable reason why many divorcing couples in the US now choose mediated divorce or mediation, a private and out-of-court legal procedure wherein divorcing couples are given the chance to settle all divorce-related issues themselves and in a friendly way. It can probably be stated that mediated divorce promotes one important matter: preserving the respect between the spouses, which is necessary in recognizing each other’s rights and interests, and vital in living out their parental roles (for though they may end being a couple, their being parents to their child/children, if they have any, do not end).

As pointed out by the website of BB Attorney, mediated divorce, which involves the assistance and guidance of a certified, third party mediator, offers divorcing spouses a number of other short-term and long-term benefits, besides being able to decide on all issues. This list of benefits includes:

  • Allowing each of the couple to maintain a good relationship (with his or her former spouse) for faster and easier resolution of future problems
  • Enabling couples to resolve all issues peacefully and within a much shorter period
  • Less expensive compared to a contested divorce
  • Helping spouses communicate better with each other, thus making them understand more each other’s interests
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